Full-time Dad vs Working
I’m taking a week off work to look after my kids while my beautiful wife visits the UK to see her family. I’ve looked after the boys (2yrs and 5yrs old) for a full day before, but I’ve never done solo-parenting.
It’s both hard and wonderful.
Hard
- No mental breaks: My kids are little and require a lot of attention. Their safety and well-being rests entirely in my hands, so even if I’m not with them, I’m thinking about what happens next and preparing. It’s like running a little military camp.
- It’s lonely: I miss Gill. She’s my best friend and at the end of the day, there’s no one to chat to, laugh with and bounce ideas around.
- I have less control: At Treehouse, I can think and immediately act. I can take a walk to clear my head. I can ask someone to do something and they’re helpful and hard-working. Kids just don’t give a shit. It’s not intentional, they’re just not developmentally ready to care about anyone other than themselves.
- It’s repetitive: Young kids don’t do well with crazy schedules that are always changing. Therefore there’s a similar schedule every day. It can get boring pretty fast.
- It requires huge amounts of energy: To be a good parent, I need to be consistently applying discipline, thinking of new creative things to do and physically moving/playing. I’m 35 so I have decent amounts of energy, but this is still a challenge. It’s amazing how much physical and mental energy it takes to be a good parent. I think this is the biggest differentiator between good and bad parents. The good parents get off their ass and expend the energy. It’s hard.
Wonderful
- It’s just me and them: They give me lots of cuddles and attention because I’m their only carer. It’s selfish, but I like it :)
- It’s empowering: I feel like I’m proving I can take care of the kids. I’m a man and I can take care of my kids. I love it. I don’t have any patience for Dads who act like they can’t figure out how to look after their children.
- It’s hilarious: Kids say the most insane things. When you’re around them all day, you get to hear all the hilarious things they say. I love it.
- It’s valuable: What could be more fulfilling than shaping the minds and lives of these amazing humans that I created?
- It’s fleeting: They’re going to grow up and become men. They won’t want me to snuggle them and kiss them. Argh. I’m getting teary just typing this.
So there you have it. Full-time parenting is fucking hard but it’s amazing. I have even more respect now for my wife, and I’m only four days into the week!
Profit is good

I just backed a new blogging platform on Kickstarter, called Ghost. I love the idea of a really simple blogging platform that’s open source.
The Creator John O’Nolan makes a big deal out them being not-for-profit in the promotion video for Ghost:
- “Made for love and not for profit”
- “Do we want to make millions and sell to Facebook or do we want to make something that’s genuinely good and serves its users and not its investors and shareholders?”
- They’re not-for-profit which “affects their motivation”
This just pisses me off. Making money and profit is good and powerful. John seems to believe it’s a binary choice:
- Profit or Passion
- Profit or Quality
- Profit or Integrity
This is naive. Profit is an enabler. It’s usually (not always) an indicator that you’re doing something that your customers really need, at a price point that makes sense. Profit gives an organization the ability to iterate faster, reach more people and beat subpar competitors. And most importantly, stay in business.
We’re working hard at reaching profitability at Treehouse because we want to build a lasting and impactful business that’s still changing lives in 100 years. This takes money and lots of it.
It’s bizarre that John says it’s wrong to serve investors, while simultaneously soliciting investors on Kickstarter. A healthy relationship between companies and investors is one where the investors want an amazing experience for customers, because it changes the world and makes them wealthy.
That’s what I love about our investors at Treehouse. They want us to be wildly profitable because it means that we are changing millions of people’s lives around the world, which in turn will make them money.
If you have shitty investors, then of course they’ll try to maximize the return on their investment and then discard you. Good investors though, can be truly empowering.
Entrepreneurs: Don’t listen to the “must be not-for-profit if you want to change the World” bullshit. The folks who figure out how to build a truly profitable and lasting company will be the ones that really change the World.
How to use a Reddit-clone to boost company culture

Recently we tried something new at Treehouse and it’s working wonderfully well, so I thought I’d share the secret with you.
We recently crossed the invisible it’s-impossible-to-communicate-effectively line. The strange place where it feels like you’re small enough as a company not to have ‘communication procedures’ but large enough that somehow everyone is no longer on the same page (and misinformation spreads like wildfire). For us, that number was around 30 employees. We’re at 53 now, so it was time for a new strategy.
Previously, we used Campfire as our ‘water cooler’. The place we’d hang out and chat about stupid stuff, random news, celebrations, etc. This was really important because we have a distributed team across the World, so we couldn’t rely on physical interactions to boost morale and communication.
The problem is that if you miss a conversation in Campfire, it can be difficult to go back and figure out what happened. The lack of threading, comments and up/down votes makes it very difficult to decipher what’s worth reading and what’s just random banter. Everything has the same importance in a chatroom.
Internal Reddit-clones
In an email thread about this issue, Jim brought up the idea of building an internal Reddit-clone. He cranked it out in a couple days, called in Convoy (because the movie is full of awesome) and here’s what it looks like …

The idea is simple: If it’s not actionable or urgent, post it to Convoy. Here’s the general guidelines:
- Phone or Google Hangout: Need an answer immediately
- IM: Need an answer in the next hour
- Email: Need an answer in next day or two
- Convoy: No answer required
Jim even built in a bit of gamification with points and user activity streams …

We still use Campfire for quick banter that’s too transient for Convoy. The Developers and Designers live in Campfire and really use it as a hive-mind. The rest of us though tend to abuse Hubot a bit in Campfire but leave the real discussions and random posts for Convoy.
We don’t have any rules about having to check Convoy or Campfire. It’s all about how much each person wants to stay connected. If they’re feeling out of the loop or disconnected, Convoy is a fun and easy way to jump back in.
Now that we’ve been using Convoy for a couple weeks, I definitely feel a palpable difference in the company culture. We’re more connected and everyone is having a chance to weigh in on discussions. Previously, you’d see these huge email threads about topics that may or may not interest you. Now email is less noisy and a lot of the discussions are happening in Convoy. Email is preserved for actionable items, which is great.
In conclusion, I’d highly recommend using an internal Reddit-clone so that your Team has a chance to discuss non-urgent/non-actionable topics or just offer encouragement or distraction. We love it.
1-on-1 meetings with your Team

As we scale Treehouse, I’ve been getting an on-the-job-MBA. It’s both stressful and really fun at the same time. One new tactic I’m trying is a bi-weekly 30 minute 1-on-1 meeting with each person I lead, with a very specific agenda.
I have a 30 minute meeting (Google Hangout or in-person), every other Monday, with the following folks:
- Chief Content Officer - Nick Pettit
- Chief Operating Officer / Chief Financial Officer - Mike Watson
- Chief Marketing Officer - Alan Johnson (He’s my Co-Founder but he’s running the Marketing Team for a year)
- Chief Commercial Officer - Chris Zabaleta
- Head of Design - Jeremy Jantz
- Head of Web Development - Tommy Morgan
- Head of Mobile Development - Marshall Huss
- Head of Treehouse Labs - Jim Hoskins
Managing eight people is about right. Probably a little on the high side for a CEO, but it’s a good structure for us right now.
The agenda
- What are the top five things you’ve been working on the last two weeks?
- Do those match to the items you’re accountable for in the 90 Day Plan?
- What are you doing to advance the careers of the people you lead?
I use a Trello Board with a list for each person. Each 1-on-1 I ask them to pre-populate a card with those three items as lists. I’ve made an example public board for you to see.
Don’t manage People, manage Activities
I got the idea of this 1-on-1 meeting structure from Rod Rice, an all-star executive who I met recently. He was key in taking Bowflex from $2m in revenue to $600m. Not bad :)
Our leadership team is currently reading Mastering the Rockefeller Habits and I got the idea of managing activities, not people. No one wants to be ‘managed’. However, they do want to be guided on whether they’re working on the right thing, at the right time.
The 1-on-1 meeting structure above really focuses your Team on what actions they’re taking to advance the company’s goals. I’m not delegating things to my Leaders. I’m asking them what they’re doing to advance the goals of the company. They have freedom to attack our top priorities however they see fit, and then I hold them accountable to that.
Startups, you don’t need to be in Silicon Valley

We just announced that Treehouse has raised $7m in funding, led by Kaplan with S+C participating.
I think this is a great place to take a stand and say you don’t need to be in Silicon Valley (or a “startup hub”) in order to raise money for your startup or be successful.
Paul Graham and I had a disagreement about this when he did a talk titled The Future of Web Startups at our conference in 2007. Afterwards, he summarized his thoughts on our interaction in his post Why to Move to a Startup Hub. That post is 5.5 years old now so I’m not sure what his current thoughts are. Paul and I are frienemies because we respect each other, but have different opinions on a few key issues. This post isn’t meant to be disparaging to him.
I hope that the following facts will be one counterpoint to the “You’ve got to move to a Startup Hub” message. Treehouse has …
- Raised over $12,000,000 in capital from some of the World’s best investors (Chamath Palihapitiya, Kevin Rose, Reid Hoffman, David Sze, Greylock, Mark Suster and Kaplan)
- Acquired 25,000+ active and paying Treehouse Students
- Grown to a $5m yearly revenue run rate and growing fast (18% top line growth last month alone)
- Hired 55+ employees distributed across Orlando, Portland and the rest of the USA (and one in the UK)
- Established a 4-day work week
- Received coverage from national news media
One of our core values at Treehouse is “We do it our way” and this fits nicely in with that.
Startup Founders: Don’t be afraid to do it your own way.
I’m leaving Apple

I tweeted this last night and it drew a lot of replies, both interested and mocking …
I’m leaving Apple. Bought a Nexus 4 and I’ll be swapping my MacBook Air for a Chrome Pixel soon.
Our entire infrastructure at Treehouse is built on Google Apps: Contacts, Calendar, Hangouts, Mail and Docs. The poor support for Google is driving me mad and I’m sick of it.
Daniel Lewis, one of our designers, showed me his Nexus 4 and and I was instantly convinced. It was a pure-Android experience, without all the carrier crap added on top.
I currently have an iPhone 4s and the power button is jammed, so I’m ditching it and making the switch. I’m also excited about moving over to a Chromebook or the Chrome Pixel (and yes, I’ve heard the terrible reviews).
I live my whole life on the web. Besides Skitch, I use zero native desktop apps. I need an operating system on both my phone and my desktop that’s designed for that.
I’m hearing from a lot of people, who really value design, that they’re making the switch. It feels very much like the underground movement of the web design/dev community to OSX back in 2001-2002. I have a feeling that we’re starting to see the slow decline of Apple. Only time will tell.
How I gained 8.7 lbs of lean mass in 28 days
I worked my ass off to lose 10% body fat. My weight dropped to 175 lbs but at 6’4” tall, that was too thin. So my next challenge was to gain lean mass and get that weight up to 185 lbs (and ideally closer to 195 lbs).

I was working out hard, eating right and staying active, but just could not put on lean mass and break that 175 lb barrier. I had been sticking to a Paleo-like diet for over 1.5 years (which my wife kindly supported me through) when I came across a post by Tim Ferriss called The Diet of UFC Champion Georges St-Pierre: How He Transformed Himself. It documents how St-Pierre gained 12 lbs of lean mass in eight weeks.
I had never heard of the three body types:
- Ectomorph – Thin build, challenging to put on weight (muscle or fat); Example: long-distance runner.
- Mesomorph – Muscular build, can lose or gain muscle easily (fat gain minimal); Example: sprinter or gymnast.
- Endomorph – Large build, easy to put on weight (both good and bad); Example: shotputter or football lineman.
I didn’t realize I was an Ectomorph and I needed to be eating healthy carbs. No wonder I wasn’t gaining any mass!
I changed my diet to something very similar to Georges St-Pierre in this post and continued doing the 5x5 Strong Lifts.
Bam. I’ve gone from 175.9 lbs to 184.6 lbs in just 28 days, while simultaneously decreasing my body fat % from 13.7 to 13.6%. That’s a gain of 8.7 lbs of lean mass.
Why didn’t I do this sooner?
I’m kicking myself for not taking control of this earlier in my life. I had this capability my whole life and I didn’t understand how my body worked and how to affect it. I lived a lot of years not feeling happy with my body which seems stupid now.
Regardless, now that I’m in control of my body I’m gaining a huge amount of confidence and enjoyment out of the process. It’s actually fun, which is still shocking to me.
Further info
The tool I use to measure my body fat percentage is a BodyMetrix Personal.
Here is where I’ve started with StrongLifts and where I’m currently at:
- Squat: Started at 75 lbs, now at 160 lbs
- Overhead Press: Started at 45 lbs, now at 85 lbs
- Deadlift: Started at 95 lbs, now at 175 lbs
- Bench Press: Started at 65 lbs, now at 105 lbs
- Barbell Row: Started at 65 lbs, now at 105 lbs
Two simple tips for using email effectively
Now that we’ve got 50+ people at Treehouse, my main role is communicating - mostly over email. Here are some tips I’ve learned to make email efficient and effective …
#1 - Reply Inline
When you reply to someone, say hello at the top, and then reply to their points “inline”. You can see examples below. Three big reasons for doing this:
- You don’t have to re-state their questions or points. You simply reply below them.
- You don’t have to add weird formatting like bold, colors or underlines, in order for the recipient to see your comments
- It’s easier to see the conversations history
Examples …
Email #1
Hi Enrique,
What doe you think we should do on Issue Number One?
Also, I’d like your thought son Issue Number Two. Thanks.
All the Best,
Wanda
Email #2
Hi Wanda,
Answers below …
Hi Enrique,
What doe you think we should do on Issue Number One?
I think we should move forward on this issue.
Also, I’d like your thought son Issue Number Two. Thanks.
Please go ahead and do this today, thanks.
All the Best,
Wanda
Thanks!
Enrique
Email #3
Hi Enrique, answers below …
Hi Wanda,
Answers below …
Hi Enrique,
What doe you think we should do on Issue Number One?
I think we should move forward on this issue.
What’s the budget?
Also, I’d like your thought son Issue Number Two. Thanks.
Please go ahead and do this today, thanks.
Will do! I’ll let you know when it’s complete
All the Best,
WandaThanks!
Enrique
All the best,
Wanda
#2 - Use BCC
When someone introduces you to someone, the best thing to do is remove them with BCC. This keeps them from getting stuck in reply-back-and-forth-purgatory. For example, if someone named Jim introduced me to someone named Michelle, then I’d do the following …
Thanks Jim, moving you to BCC.
Michelle,
Great to meet you! I’d like to give you a call, if you have time, to discuss …
Your tips …
So those are a couple of my simple tips. Please share yours below!
Everybody wanna be a Bodybuilder

“Everybody wanna be a bodybuilder but nobody wanna lift heavy ass weights” - Ronnie Coleman, Eight times Mr Olympian winner
I’ve noticed a recurring theme in the lives of successful people:
- They’re naively optimistic about what’s possible
- They work hard and smart to get there
That’s why I love that quote by Ronnie Coleman. Everyone wants to be successful but few are willing to do what it takes.
Work longer?
What I’m not promoting is working longer hours. As you probably know, we work a 4-day week at Treehouse. What I am promoting is being willing to go through pain and fear. Not just willing, but expecting and welcoming these things.
I see a lot of similarities with working out at the gym and succeeding in the rest of your life. There’s no way around the fact that if I want to get stronger and healthier, I have to cause my body to ‘hurt’. Fatigue, exhaustion, aches, feeling sick. It’s all necessary.
The same is true with success in the rest of my life. I’ll never get to where I want to go without experiencing fear, doubt and exhaustion.
It’s normal and it’s good. Not always and not forever, but it’s definitely been a part of my journey.
Why I’m joining EO

I’ve written about doing it alone but I’m also learning the importance of surrounding yourself with people who’ve already achieved your goals and push you really hard.
That’s why I joined Entrepreneurs’ Organization (EO) this year. To join you have to be the CEO or own a controlling share of the company, and be doing $1m+ in yearly revenue.
They have a complete list of the benefits on their site but the primary reason I’m joining is for something called Forum. A Forum is a smaller group (8-12 people) within your local EO chapter that meets once a month.
Forum members take part in growth-oriented meetings, employing special protocols to support a trusting environment in which they can safely explore business and personal issues. The idea is that everything you share at the meeting is completely confidential (you can’t even tell your Partner about it) so you can reveal your biggest and scariest challenges. The ones you can’t talk to your Team/Partner/Kids/etc about because you’re supposed to have the answers.
Before you can join a Forum you have to go through Forum Training, which is a full day immersion course in how to listen and give feedback to others. EO Forums use the Gestalt Protocol which basically means you can only speak from experience, instead of giving advice. I’ve actually been using this in other areas of my life and it works really well.
Speaking from experience removes the pressure for the listener to take your advice and it also has real factual value, as you’re sharing real-life stories and what did or didn’t work for you. The listener can listen to your experience and then translate it into action however they see fit.
I’m really excited about EO. I can tell I’ve been thrashing around as an entrepreneur for the last seven years and it’s time to get freaking serious about growing, learning and kicking ass. Bring it on!
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